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Relationship Design

Monogamy as we know it can feel so limiting. Whether you’re interested in making monogamy work for you or journey into ethical nonmonogamy, I am equipped to help you design your ideal relationship(s). As someone in a triad, I personally understand the tough feelings that nonmonogamy can bring—jealousy, insecurity, and shame, to name a few—and I want to support you in working through these obstacles in order to engage with partners ethically, authentically, and enthusiastically.

Empowerment

Empowerment is more than just self-confidence: it’s a profound sense of certainty and groundedness that comes from knowing and loving yourself inside and out. If you’re looking to improve your self-esteem and develop a deep and meaningful relationship to yourself, I will provide concrete skills that effectively meet those goals—skills that really work, which I know since they’re what empowered me to live as my authentic self much sooner than my peers. The journey to self-love is not easy, but it’s the most important journey you will ever embark on, and I am honored to be your guide.

Neurodivergence

In a world that wasn’t built for neurodivergent people (those of us with ADHD, autism, or other similar disorders), we often find ourselves struggling to engage with sex and relationships in a way that both feels authentic to us and mindful of our partner(s). Due to behaviors like masking, we may not be able to be fully in our bodies during sex or be fully ourselves in relationships. Or because of our specific needs, we may feel like a burden to others or constantly over our capacity. Discovering and defining what you need from your relationship(s) and sex as a neurodivergent person can feel daunting, but I am here to help you make it happen. Once you’re able to understand and communicate your desires, needs, boundaries, and capacity to current or potential partners, you will feel empowered to drop the mask and have fulfilling relationships.

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BDSM — YOUR Way

BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, Masochism) is a catch-all acronym for several avenues of sexual expression and kink. The aesthetics of BDSM can be quite intimidating for many of us interested in exploring our kinky side in the bedroom, but together we can explore your interest in BDSM and develop it your way. Finding my own version of dominance (colorful and playful) and sadism (sensual sadism) was integral to my confidence and desires in this realm, and I am here to guide you through that same journey. While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with BDSM as it currently manifests, I am passionate about expanding what it can look and feel like. I especially love working with women who are curious about expressing their dominance but feel uninspired by the stereotypical “dominatrix” character. Your domme is in you, let’s find her together!

Taboo Kinks & Fantasies

Shame is a powerful emotion, especially when we are ashamed of what turns us on. You deserve to feel safe and empowered by your fantasies, and together we can explore your desires and find ways to satisfy them without bringing harm to yourself or others. Whether your fantasies stem from trauma, adverse childhood experiences, or nowhere in particular, we will work together to reduce shame, find safe outlets for your desires, and communicate your desires to partners, if you so wish. There is nothing wrong with you.

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